I frequently wonder if I am doing this “right”.
I am sure it is the overthinking, psychotherapist, transformational women’s empowerment coach in me. Or the fact, I am just a normal mama wanting to do better for her daughter….relate?
But truth be told, and you know this to be true my friend, how we were raised, the stories we were told, all had an impact on us! whether we like it or not.
I helped my client, Sally, do some deep dive work so she could remove this lie from her subconscious!
This was the LIE:
“If I speak up and ask for what I want, then people will give me that look they gave my mother, and I will be perceived as pushy and obnoxious.
People will judge me.
I don’t want to make people uncomfortable.
If I am direct in asking for what I want, I will NEVER get it so why bother.
I must protect myself. I must be apologetic for what I want.
I must overdeliver so people will see I’m really a nice person.”
Every single day, literally, every day I have the honor of talking with some of the most incredible women on the planet.
Maybe you are one of those I have spoken with recently!!
This is the #boldtruth: MOST women do NOT speak up and ASK frequently enough!!
I promise, in fact, I pinky promise! IF you think you are pushy…you are not.
If you think you are overdoing it…you are not.
How do I know this is true?????
IF you worry about this… then it is not part of your nature!!
It’s people who have ZERO awareness that they are pushy who are pushy.
People who worry about being pushy are not.
Want to test this out?? think about someone you know who is pushy or think of a stereotype of a pushy person?? Do they seem self-aware??
The question for you today, dear friend,Â
Whose story are you living out? Do you have one like Sally? living out her mom’s story?
What is getting in your way of closing more deals, getting the raise, getting your kid to clean their room, getting your boss off you back???
I promise, if you don’t work on these things you will not have all the juice of life. You will continue to live with self-doubt.
You will erode your confidence.