Happily ever after is what I have always longed for. Deep longing. Deep desire.

I have always wanted to be: heard, loved, honored, adored, lusted for, cherished, respected, challenged, encouraged, supported, well, you get the idea.

I am no different from you. I want to know to my very CORE, I am important, I matter, and someone thinks about me with a knowing smile.

Today’s blog post was going to be, FROM BEST FRIEND TO NAG, WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED? 3 tips on talking…

Look for that another  week.

It hit me this morning, my anniversary is TOMORROW, October 8, 2013!

Yes, it was pouring down rain!

Yes, it was pouring down rain! I am barefoot and John is in dress uniform.

Don’t get me wrong, I KNEW it was my anniversary, but it didn’t really sink in until this morning how all this good stuff is happening at the same time.

This week is also my virtual event, “HOW TO KEEP LOVE FRESH, ALIVE AND GROWING.” I think it is so fitting to have it going on the very week of my eight (8) year wedding anniversary.

I didn’t plan it that way, but now that it is here, I will take it as a gift from the UNIVERSE, a knowing nod, I am on the right path with my calling.

I deeply want to support you in having the relationship you have longed for, wanted, needed, craved for, and prayed for. I am committed to helping you reach all of your goals. I believe when you have a loving relationship, develop great boundaries and speak your mind it can impact you in many areas of your life. When you learn to have a great relationship you will carry this over into your business life. As a woman, your job is to give yourself emotional, financial and time freedom. Then when you have a loving relationship, it is icing on the cake.

And I want to tell you, you deserve it, and you can have it, because I know what it is like not to have one.

Today though, I want you to know, I get you. I was you and I am you.

I believe in happily ever after. I believe in love and romance for a lifetime.

I believe because my husband, John, and I have made our marriage a priority. Yes, sometimes life gets busy, sometimes life is freaking hard, but without having each other, without having an individual and collective commitment to grow ourselves and our marriage, what’s the point of it all?

I believe, love is the point of all of this. This being whatever this human experience is.

The true key:

You are responsible for the outcome of your life, no one else. Period.

Write your own Dear John letter. Focus on the good, what you want and take responsibility for getting it. Ask for help when you need it.

So maybe you don’t send it yet. Maybe there is no John. Write it anyway. Write it full of desire and hope and want.


You, too, can have your own happily ever after. I believe it is waiting for you.

Dear John,

I sit here typing, and the tears are starting because I am so grateful for our beautiful love.

I am grateful to have you in my life. My soul mate, you have given that term meaning.

You have helped me heal, you have loved me through my growing pains, you have shown me the deepest of unconditional love, you laugh at my jokes, you honor my mind and my brain, you lust my body, you have given me the most treasured gift of being a parent, and you allow me to give you those very same things in return and many more.

Because of you I am growing more into the woman I am designed to be, I am singing my song, the one you knew I had within and I feel full, rich and thankful.

Thank you for stretching me, thank you for being my best friend, thank you for forgiving me when I screw up.

I love you always, and alwayz,

Happy Anniversary. You are as sexy today as you were 8 years ago.



I adore you, John!